Improve your sex life if you’re not body
confident
by Tracey Cox, Sex Expert
Learn to love at least parts of your body
OK, you don’t like your tummy or your thighs,
what about your arms, shoulders, hands or feet. Start focusing on
those areas during sex, pamper them, and show them off. Thin people
pay more attention to themselves – if you don’t like your body and
don’t like paying attention to it, you’re not going to want to
shave, preen, fake tan etc – yet all those things do make us feel
more confident about showing it off to our partner.
Focus on what you’re feeling, not how you’re
looking.
Close your eyes and lose yourself in sensation
rather than focusing on what you think you partner is seeing.
The less hang-ups you have about your body, the more
positively your partner will see it.
It’s something sex therapists rattle on about
all the time and it’s not a cliché – its enthusiasm and confidence
that’s attractive in bed, regardless of what size you are.
Some practical things:
· Decide what time of the day you feel
you do look your best and have sex then. Like have sex first, then
go out to dinner. Don’t do it last thing at night when
feel heavy or uncomfortable but first thing in morning when feel
lightest.
· If absolutely don’t want to be
naked, buy some low-cut sexy tops that flatter your chest
but cover the rest and leave it on during sex. Or try a see
through nightie. The classic baby doll shape is flattering
and won’t get in the way of sex. Leaving an old food-stained
T-shirt on during sex isn’t sexy but leaving a sexy nightie on is –
plus you’ll feel sexier because you feel more comfortable.
· Pick your position. Forget
the missionary position, rear-entry positions are the most
flattering, especially if you lift your bottom high in the air and
lean forwards on your forearms. Not only does it give him a visual
treat, the angle and position makes your waist look tiny and your
thighs slim and taut.
If you do opt for missionary, make a pudgy
upper midriff look sexier by stretching your arms up over your head
and grabbing onto the bedposts or by placing them flat on the wall
behind the bed.
·Leave the light on,
just be sneaky about how you do it. Put candles on the
floor on saucers or simply plunk the bedside light down there.
Lighting from below is far more flattering. Another good fat-day
trick: Blindfold him and let it all hang out.